No one likes to be around hypocrites and that is a given. But often we look at others, forgetting to look in the Mirror. When we say one thing and our behaviour depicts something else, it creates confusion in the minds of others. It is always better to let people see you rather than hear you; unfortunately or fortunately, what they see is evidence of who you really are.
I know of many persons who have been discouraged from doing good because they have been disappointed by someone they once looked up to.
Students look up to teachers and are often baffled by their conduct. It causes them to re-evaluate the values they were taught, to question whether or not there are folks who really believe these values and live by them. Some Parents create deep rifts between themselves and their children, because they choose to discipline their children for certain acts they themselves are guilty of committing. Some spouses treat their wives or husbands badly, while they pretend to be angels on the outside, seeking to fool others into believing that all is well.
It happens at church as well, church leaders forget that it is ok to admit to weaknesses and failures and instead, attempt to live hiding behind a mask, one that forces them to pretend to be who they are not. Usually, it is only a matter of time that the high expectations of others are shattered.
Bosses pretend to listen, to care and to be fair, while deep down they are not sincerely interested in your well-being. You are not valued beyond what you can do.
These are all realities that exists in your world and in my world. Many of us have been disappointed by someone in our lifetime or have disappointed someone in their lifetime.
Let us remember that there is always someone looking up to us, observing us, respecting and valuing our advice and guidance. It therefore means that our actions and behaviours can either hinder someone from pursuing their purpose, or propel them to move full speed ahead.
I do believe we should not blame anyone for the situations and conditions we find ourselves in, but if we are to be honest, some of our greatest blows come from people who disappointed us in life.
Remember, someone is watching the way you live and is being encouraged to pursue their dreams, to persevere through a difficult period in their life, or to change.
This should cause us to think a lot deeper, before we act.