Talk, sing and dance about His goodness.

I was a believer for years before I learned about freedom in worship. I remember attending church and singing lots of hymns and choruses. The songs were generally in line with scripture and reminded me of the truths about God and His most prized creation, man. I was in love with clapping and singing and stepping to the rhythm. These moments were certainly uplifting for me and I am grateful.

Somewhere in my late twenties early thirties however, I experienced a different level of worship. A level of worship that allowed me to become more aware of my thoughts, and my actions towards God. A level of worship that allowed me to become more practical in my christian walk. I got free from traditional forms of worship and I got to understand that It was o.k. for me to express myself towards God. I was free to show tears, to kneel before God, to shout, to sing out and to dance. I no longer was concerned about who was watching and what they were thinking. For the first time I began to realise that it was not worldly to show emotions in worship towards God. It was great to learn and embrace that freedom.

As I was reading Exodus 15 this week, I couldn’t help but notice a few things about worship that made me smile and reflect on my journey.

  1. God delivered the children of Israel from the Egyptians by miraculously allowing them to walk through the Red Sea, later causing Pharaoh’s army to drown as they pursued them. As a result they sang a song unto the Lord and what I observed is that the words were very specific to what was experienced. They sang “He hath triumphed gloriously! The Lord is my strength and my song and he is become my salvation.” It reminds us to sing unto the Lord with our whole hearts being mindful to be meaningful and personal in our expressions. We must only sing about our experiences. Let our words be true and meaningful.
  2. There was a powerful testimony in their song. It says, “The depths have covered them and they sank to the bottom as a stone”. Those who are listening and watching need to hear the details of what God has done or is doing for you. Don’t hold it back, it shows off his power and his might and it allows them to relate to your story.
  3. I love how they exposed the plan of the enemy in their song by singing “The enemy said, I will pursue you, I will overtake you, I will divide and spoil…” It is important that we do not downplay the plan of the enemy. The consequences of taking the enemy for granted can be devastating. Accept it for what it is! He will pursue! He will seek to overtake you! He will seek to destroy your family, your future and your testimony.

Be free with your praise and your testimony, do not hold back from sharing about God’s goodness. Sing about it, talk about it, dance about it!

Am I truly trusting God? Relaxing while waiting!

Over the last two months, I have been learning to be more practical in my Christian walk, making that effort to apply the principles of scripture to every day life, something I think should be the goal of every believer. In particular, I have been working on trusting God. As I reflected, I realised that I have been speaking more about trusting than behaving as if I truly believe I can trust God. I was praying and pursuing God for a certain outcome in my life but in the midst of all that there was fear, anxiety and sadness. God used a dear friend to help me to really examine myself and ask “Are you truly trusting God?” Because I was willing to honestly say “no” recognizing that I have been desperately trying to fix things myself, I was able to grow and learn to trust God more.

We often find ourselves crying out to God for answers, for change, for deliverance and we say we are “trusting” God but we are not. Keep in mind that trusting God means to have a firm belief in his reliability, his word and his ability to work on your behalf. Let’s look at a scenario to bring this discussion alive. Marsha lives with her Mom and her Mom’s health is deteriorating. Marsha adores her and as the only child she feels responsible for taking care of her. Marsha has to go to work daily and now that her mom’s health is deteriorating she is worried about who would take care of her mom while she is at work. Marsha believes in God and decides to give this matter to God to handle and to pray without ceasing about it. This is what happens in reality. She prays but allows her concerns to place her in a depressed mood, she is often thinking about the situation and feels helpless. She prays, asking God to take control but she she talks about her concerns at work often, to the point that her colleagues become concern. She prays, but she cannot rejoice or enjoy life with her friends. Marsha prays, but she begins to frantically search for a retired nurse who can come home and take care of her mom.

I see no evidence that Marsha is truly trusting God, rather I see evidence of worry and anxiety. These are the glaring signs:

1. She continually allows her mind to dwell on her situation allowing herself to be sad and depressed.

2. She feels helpless.

3. She talks about it at work often.

4.She begins searching frantically for a retired nurse.

5. She is unable to enjoy the present, to be joyful or to praise God.

All these actions are evidence of worry and anxiety. If Marsha is truly trusting God, she needs to train herself not to think about the situation to the extent where it affects her health. Every time she finds herself worrying she needs to remind herself that she already gave the situation to God and he is able to handle it. If Marsha is trusting God, she would not feel helpless and become desperate to the point that she has to be talking about it often. She would sense God’s support knowing that he would work things out on her behalf and in accordance with his will for her life. If Marsha is truly trusting God her actions would be in faith and not in fear understanding that God would open and close doors as he sees fit, there is no need to become frantic. Marsha would also be able to rejoice and continue to have peaceful, happy moments despite her circumstances.

I always love when I can reflect and see ways for me to grow, to put the scripture to the test. When you and I are obedient to scripture, life is better and we are able to be joyful even while experiencing difficult times.

Proverbs 3:5 says “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto thine own under-standing”. Psalm 28:7 says “The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in Him, and I am helped: therefore my heart greatly rejoice; and with my song I will praise him. Then there is Psalm 37:4-6, “Delight thyself also in the Lord, and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the LORD, trust also in him and he shall bring it to pass. And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgment as the noonday.”

God has given us sufficient truth to keep us thinking and acting right. Practice trusting God for real and see him work things out for you.

My little purple laptop and God’s grace


This little laptop represents a significant turn in my Christian walk. I bought it at a time when I was going through a spiritual struggle. It was available to me as God planted a desire in me to write. I never, ever thought of being a writer and here I was full and ready to release what was in my heart. For years I would post random snippets of thoughts on my Facebook page but then after a while the Facebook space grew to be inappropriate. That was when the blog was born, born to #inspireothersonline. This little laptop represents all this and more.

It was a time in my life when I grew impatient and unthankful and as a result my spiritual vision was compromised. I couldn’t hear those closest to me, all I could see was my struggle, my need my pain. What I needed was to welcome the support of others, to embrace sincere friendship and to dig deeper for answers and guidance from God’s word. I have never been in such a place like this. “But” with a capital “B” “God”.

What I have learnt is that when you are in a place of irritability and everything and almost everyone around you seem to be an enemy to your joy or success, you are in a dangerous place. When you become so caught up on protecting your legacy and your character to the extent where you begin to take for granted the people and things that really matter to you, you need to be shaken. I was in that place!

Keep in mind two words, mentioned before “But God”. God’s amazing love reaches where man’s love cannot. God’s amazing love touches us inside, deep inside where the root of our problems sit. God’s amazing love sometimes, forcefully arrests to rescue us so that his way, his will in our lives could take place. God’s amazing love did all that and more for me.

It was during my exodus from this struggle that I found God to be my comfort and my friend. He reminded me that I was not alone. I was embraced, I was loved and I was needed. He reminded me to place my eyes on Him, not on my circumstances, my dreams and my desires. He reminded me to seek Him first.

God kept me through my struggles and chose to plant in me a desire to write. While I had been seeking to encourage others on Facebook with little snippets of writings here and there, this was different, he was asking me to commit myself to a ministry online where I would share my own experiences in a dedicated space where the whosoever will may visit. It was a commitment that required me to step out of my comfort zone, out of my protective space and share from the heart but only to the point where I knew it was right and blessed by the Holy Spirit. Through writing came an opportunity to heal, to spark again, to shine anew. God is still taking me through the process of “shinning anew”. It is no easy, “happy-go-lucky” process, but I am grateful.

I would always treasure my little purple laptop as it represents a significant point in my journey. It was this little laptop that made it possible for me to start the blog “inspireothersonline” in 2017 launching it on my birthday, September 25th. Every year I celebrate God’s goodness to me. His grace and his faithfulness has given me the opportunity to overcome, to blossom in new areas of my life even while I was struggling to hold on to his promises.

I don’t know what your circumstances are today but I know that if you are in that place where you feel you have disappointed God and he no longer is interested in manifesting his glory through you, think again! That’s not who God is. This is the time for you to shut up inside your head and get into the word of God, so he can speak to you. Tell him exactly how you feel and submit to his Word and the prompting of His Holy Spirit. It is a time for you to speak less like a Christian and act more like one. You will be amazed with the transformation that takes place.

Isaiah 43:1 says; “But now thus saith the Lord that created thee, O Jacob, and He that formed thee, O Israel, Fear not: for I have redeemed thee, I have called thee by thy name; thou art mine.”

The Bible Stories and our Legacy

I started reading through the bible this year, trying to slowly soak it all in. The aim is not just to finish but gain greater understanding of the scripture, draw closer to God and experience the thrill of the word speaking to me and enlightening me. As I came to the last few chapters in Genesis, it felt as if I just completed watching a great movie. The Account of Jacob (Israel) and his family is amazing. The story of Joseph and his brothers even more amazing.

As I started book number two (2), Exodus, I felt sad. Jacob (Israel) has died, Joseph has died and all his brothers. Mind you, this happened many years ago but their stories became so alive in my heart that I felt as if I lost something. I am thinking to myself, their passing is such a loss to humanity, people like them should live forever.

Exodus chapter one has already secured my attention. As mentioned before, they all died, Jacob, Joseph and all his brothers. Now the verse that really caused me to halt was Exodus 1 verse 8. “Now there arose up a new king over Egypt, which knew not Joseph”. What? Seriously? Half of your life is missing. The said chapter also tells us that he was a mean Pharaoh. He saw the Israelites as threats and afflicted them. He also sought to kill all the males among them. Things were no longer the same.

How does this apply to us today? I see it as very relevant. Joseph rose up and did what God commanded him to do. He truly lived for others growing to be an outstanding leader in his day and leaving a great legacy, one that we still read about today. However, Joseph died and despite all the good he did to give the Israelites a better quality life during the famine and to protect them, he could not protect them forever. The wicked Pharaoh took over and all hell broke loose for the Israelites. He didn’t even know about this great man Joseph.

Despite the fact that we would die and some people may not remember our legacy, don’t let that reality shock you into frozen mode. Joseph’s story of yesterday is serving to motivate, teach and inspire others today. Do not focus on those who belittle you or doubt your potential. Do not focus on what your family did to you, do not focus on the man or woman who had an opportunity to help you and bluntly refused. Focus on your mission, you task, your purpose and get it done. There will be those who would benefit as a result of your giving to others, and your willingness to share your gifts and abilities with the world.

Your greatness can be realized but like Joseph you must be willing to run from those traps that can corrupt your character, like Joseph, you must be bold and ready to face powerful men and ask for what you need, like Joseph you must be ready to forgive despite your pain. Joseph would always be remembered for excellence in leadership, his willingness to say no to the attractive and the powerful, his deep love for his brothers and his care for the welfare of his people.

What would you and I be remembered for? I remind you to pursue a meaningful life where “people” are your focus.

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In 2017, I accepted God’s way of renewing my purpose in life by taking my writing from little random, “spur of the moment” Facebook posts to longer articles, delving more into the topic at hand. I never in my wildest dreams thought I would start a blog on my own. Everything happened so seamlessly! I am writing today to inspire and uplift someone, anyone and everyone. I write from my heart, my joys and my pain, I write from my passion and I seek my very best to write from a pure heart. My desire is always to express my ideas only when I believe them to be true, sincere and practical. I write on topics that interests me most. I write within the framework of biblical principles because I believe they were created for man’s success.

To you who have subscribed to my blog and have been reading as I write, please know that you encourage me to keep writing. I truly believe that if I had only five readers, I would keep writing and that’s because I believe this is one of the ways I am living out God’s purpose for my life.

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Psalm 139:14 – My new favourite verse

Last Sunday, my son led family devotions. For us leading family devotions is no big thing, we would normally share a passage that has been a blessing to us, a lesson learnt, or just something in the bible we found amazing and wanted to explore more with the rest of the family.

He read from Psalm 139 wrapping it up by quoting the last two verses. We had such a sweet moment discussing that Psalm that I decided to go back and feed a bit more on it, this time with my daughter. So at nights we began reading the Psalm again.

There is so much in this Psalm but I must just take this moment to say that when we arrived at verse 14, all heaven broke loose. That verse just put a skip in our step, a flicker of light in our eyes and a cool inner feeling of peace that made us feel that we were ready for bed and ready to face what is to come.

I decided to share that special verse with you. It says, “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made, marvelous are thy works and that my soul knoweth right well.” I just love the old English style in which it is written.

Some verses just hit the spot when you least expect it. I felt a little dry and my friend, when I read this verse, all my dry places was immediately flooded. If we had decided to just say good night and dive under the covers, we would’ve missed this golden moment with God’s word.

I am going to praise God just knowing that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I am his masterpiece, I am his special creation, I am of such great worth to Almighty God that it just makes me want to run to the top of the mountain and shout it out so the world could hear. God continues to do amazing, marvelous, out-of-this-world things that astonishes us daily. He is really incomparable.

What a verse! Definitely the kind of verse that would change a dull moment to joy. I admit, some part of the Bible can seem boring but there is always that verse to keep you smiling, to keep you going, to keep you joyful.

We are human but God provides the means for us to think above our human tendencies.

The Book of Genesis provides a great entrance to God and His intention for His creation.   It never gets old no matter how many times I read it. 

The stories of Abraham and Sarah reminds us of the importance of trusting God.   Stay with me as I quickly point out a few things: 

Genesis 12:3 shares with us a promise made by God to Abraham: “And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great, and thou shall be a blessing”. Then Chapter 15 speaks more of this promise.  Verses 3 & 4 says:  “And Abram said, Behold to me thou hast given no seed: and , lo, one born in my house is mine heir. And, behold, the word of the Lord came unto him saying, this shall not be thine heir; but he that shall come forth out of thine own bowels shall be thine heir.” 

Sadly, Abraham Got anxious and had sex with his Maid on the prompting of his wife.  Maybe he thought he was helping God fulfill his will.  His human thinking however, only created problems.   This was not the seed God promised to Abraham.  God intended for this seed to come from Abraham and his wife.    

God had to instruct Abraham again, this time clearly indicating that Sarah would have a child.  And you know what? Sarah did have a child as promised.    Skip down to chapter 21 and what do we read? “And the Lord visited Sarah as he said, and the Lord did unto Sarah as he had spoken.” 

When coming to God’s promises and his plan for our lives, we often think we need to speed up things and we give into the pressures around us, but our fleshy mistakes only create havoc in our lives and it is never worth it.  Sometimes the pressures to stray from God’s promise can come from a family member and when it does it becomes tricky.   It is comforting to know, however, that God strengthens us to resist any pressure, it does not matter where them come from. 

In Chapter 20, it speaks of Abraham journeying to the South and staying in a city called Gerar.   Abraham told the King, Abimelech, that Sarah was his Sister.  He was afraid that if he confessed her to be his wife, they would kill him and take her.  He feared that they had no respect for God and would do as they please. 

Abraham’s lie did not help one bit, it created problems for the King’s household.   Abraham had to confess and allow God to fix the situation. 

Our natural mind has to be daily trained to think in the spiritual.  God already promised Abraham a seed, he knew it was not the child he had with his Maid and he knew the seed would come from Sarah.   But, here he is fearing death.   Didn’t Abraham realize he needed to be alive for God’s purpose to be executed? 

I am happy that even though we are bent towards doing our own thing, we have the means to resist and give in to God’s plan for our lives. 

Barriers to effective communication in Marriage.

A few days ago, I was thinking of “barriers to effective communication within marriages. I started brainstorming, looking at my marriage and thinking of the experience of others. I must say my biblical knowledge quickly influenced the direction of my thoughts. I decided to introduce the discussion on my Facebook page and the responses sent me to a deeper place and I had to put put letters to screen :).

As a result of my deep thinking and some of my friends on Facebook sharing their heart on the matter, I decided to share four possible barriers to communication within the Marriage Relationship.

  • Pride – Pride literally cripples you. It has nothing good to offer. I am speaking of the pride that hinders us from doing what is right. The Pride that is more concerned about how we look on the outside and how people perceive us. The Pride that distorts reality trapping us in a world where our identity is defined by how we dress, the type of vehicle we drive, who our friends are, where we work and our achievements. We are therefore seeking to keep up appearances. We may get away with keeping up appearances on the outside but at home it can really hurt us and destroy the relationships that really matter to us. May I suggest that instead of keeping up appearances at home, we seek to practice accepting accountability for our wrongs, even those that make us ashamed and disappointed in ourselves. Accept that you have flaws, weaknesses and nasty habits to work on. Do not pretend to be who you are not, do not be afraid to face your sins head-on. Many times our Spouses are a blessing to us because they are one of the few persons who would tell us the truth about ourselves. I suggest you listen! Don’t let pride rob you from building a closer relationship with your spouse.
  • Distractions – Mobile phones and all it affords – We are in an age of technology at our finger tips. It is like an itch that we think we need to keep scratching. It is a well established and accepted distraction and I believe many couples are struggling with it. Let each man examine himself and pursue change where applicable. Avoid using your phones when your spouse is around and available to chat or to be engaged in doing something with you. Whether it is an opportunity to eat together, or watch the news together or just to be silly together, grab that opportunity to engage each other.
  • Passing judgement before hearing the story – Oh how we love to jump to conclusions before hearing the whole story. “He is always coming home late because he doesn’t like being around me!” So you responded to what you think is the reason for him arriving home late, by keeping to yourself and being extra quiet. He is trying to speak to you and you have gone ice cold. Here is another scenario; “She ended the call because I came into the room.” On that evening you had planned together to work on a family project but instead you started to lecture your wife about “Trust”, she get’s upset as she feels judged and storms out the room. One more scenario, “He told his mom what I told him last night, that is why she did not call me today.” We often act on these hunches, assumptions and wrong perceptions. It is important that we act on facts, ask questions if you need to know what really transpired, but don’t draw conclusions from what seems to be the truth.
  • This is the final one and it is a big one; failure to forgive. One’s failure to forgive their spouse would certainly be a barrier. Failure to forgive means one spouse is holding something against the other, something they did or did not do, that the husband or wife really disapproved of. Unforgiveness leads one to hate and playing the blame game. It is like a big wall that hinders your relationship from blossoming, from prospering, from moving on. It can lead to behaviours that can cause the relationship to deteriorate further, all because he/she chooses not to let go. Communication between both parties becomes complicated and painful. Solution? Get on your knees and ask God to help you to forgive your spouse. Seek help. Be vulnerable enough to tell your spouse how you feel, let them know that you want to but it is proving difficult. Act against your feelings, love your spouse even when it is hard to forgive and try not to allow your past experiences to negatively influence your communication with your spouse.

The 13th chapter of 1 Corinthians is a lovely chapter to read and reflect on as couples. Read verses 4 to 7. Love is patient, kind, does not envy, is not proud, avoids questionable behaviours, does not think evil of others and more.

I am often amazed how we communicate to our loved ones with such disrespect at times and we make such effort to communicate respectfully to strangers. May you be inspired today to love your spouse enough to take the time to practice the behaviours that would enrich the quality of your communication daily.

Start off by greeting your spouse in the kindest, sweetest way and mean it from the heart. Don’t send mixed messages, don’t be silent when you should be speaking and please be careful what comes out of your mouth. Let your words uplift and inspire your spouse.

A safe place for children

I am often saddened when I hear stories of dysfunctional homes, abandoned children, children who are neglected and exposed to danger by their parents and children who are simply lost all because they have not known unconditional love and acceptance.

You see, as parents our role is to provide a safe place for our children to exist, to discover themselves and to develop into independent, sober adults who can make sound decisions that would lead to great quality lives.

What is a “safe place”?

That safe place I am referring to is the HOME. Most children return to a home and the ideal scenario is that they should be very happy to return home.

As a parent myself, I often have to remind myself that I cannot control what takes place outside of our home, whether it is unfair teachers, unreasonable adults who judge all children the same, immature Christians who play holy but take pleasure in destroying the character of others, men and women who prey on innocent children, or advertisements and activities that encourage the use of alcohol, nakedness and irresponsible behaviour.

I have come to terms with the reality of this life. I have also recognised that I have the power to influence my kids positively and I must use the advantage of the Home, the fact that we all live in the same space.

I feel it for parents who are struggling. There are those of us who may not describe ourselves as struggling but our experiences can be described more as challenges. Everyone has to face the struggle/challenge of creating that “safe place” and keeping it safe. There are many negative influences out there, seeking to snatch the opportunity for greatness from our children. I wish to share a few tips with us on how we can create that “safe place” at home so that our children can pursue a meaningful life now and in the future.

  1. As a parent, be present at home as much as possible. Try to cut down the unsupervised times spent at home by your children, even as teenagers. When it is totally necessary for you to be out, provide a structure for them while they are at home, give them tasks to accomplish. It is also necessary to follow-up and monitor them with a phone call or two.
  2. Know your children’s friends. You can get to know them by visiting their school, attending school activities, sending little goodies for them at school, and inviting them out with your children.
  3. Practice self-control as a parent, avoid shouting, yelling, the cold treatment and other immature behaviours. In other words grow up, get help if you need it. These kind of behaviours push children away, creating a dangerous distance. If your children are not ready to chat with you everyday about their experiences at school, check yourself first. Maybe you are to harsh, jumping to conclusions before listening. Remember you were once young and they are not yet grown.
  4. Work-out any problems you may have with your spouse privately, do not allow your children to be negatively affected by any disagreements between yourself and your spouse (for those who are married of course).
  5. Do not leave your children home with strangers or anyone you are uncomfortable with, they are better of home alone, if it is really necessary.
  6. Try as much as possible to serve home-cooked meals. Give them the experience of good, tasty food that is safe and healthy to eat.
  7. Speak only words that are uplifting to your children. Be their biggest Cheer-Leader! Even when they need to be disciplined, let them know that you love them deeply and desire the best for them, that is why discipline is necessary.
  8. Give them a sound spiritual education. Point them to the Scriptures and to beginning a relationship with God, not to religion and a life of pretense and religious formalities. Let them know that there are standards for right and wrong and God is the absolute authority. Introduce them to a God of love who can be trusted with their future because he knows all things. Talk about the Word of God at home and apply it to daily living.
  9. As parents, seek to be good examples, so that your children would not suffer the consequences of your sins. Give them that chance to start life without baggage, they would create their own anyhow.
  10. Finally, build great memories at home, have fun! plan lots of family activities and get the children to contribute their ideas as well.

There is so much more that can be said but, I prefer to keep it short. As short as it may be, let it inspire you to grow as a parent and work towards building a safer place for your children.