My son inspires me to exercise.

I think it is really, really important, the way two pieces of bread is necessary for a sandwich, the way two hands must come together to make a clapping sound, the way the wind is needed to disperse the cotton seeds; I think in the same way, family success can only happen if every member of the family sees himself as a key component to making it happen.

I have been struggling to exercise consistently, I would start then stop, start then pause, start then……nothing……:).    But the lovely and interesting fact is, I really love to exercise.  Once I get started, I feel alive, renewed and invincible.  Interestingly, I always feel like the Holy Spirit is nudging me to exercise.  Is he trying to show me that I need to take steps towards a healthier lifestyle?  But he does not have to keep reminding me right?  It just makes sense to exercise; results of research bombards us of that fact.  But still…..I struggle.

Well, I publicly confess, I need to be motivated from time to time to keep doing it.

Today, I am motivated. How come? Why?  Jonathan.    His passion to work out has finally rubbed of on me and when he invited me again to work out with him this week, I finally caved in.

I really appreciate his interest in getting him mama “moving”.  I allowed him to instruct me through the warm up routines, watched him select a suitable work-out set for me and listened to his wise instructions.   God is using my son to get me moving :).

The end result was good!   I did the routine again for a second time this week without him nudging me, and I feel really accomplished.

We really need each other as family. 

As our children grow older, we need not to resist the fact that they are growing very knowledgeable and eager to teach us a thing or two or even three.   They exhibit responsible behaviours that sometimes leaves us as parents with mental confusion :);  “Where did my baby go?”.

Well my babies are still with me, but they no longer need my wet kisses, they need me to respect the fact that they can teach me a thing or two or even three.

So I have decided I would stick with my son as my Keep-fit trainer, at least for now.

Treasure each member of your family as that second hand that is needed to produce the beautiful clapping sound.

 

 

Discover a new Song! Song Scouting

I like sharing things that work for me.   Have you ever heard about song scouting?  Well, it’s no big promoted activity, it is simply searching for songs that you never heard before and listening to them for the first time.   I like scouting for songs when I need to relax a bit; when I wish to be refreshed in my spirit, and there is that stir within me to just bask in God’s goodness, on his character and on his promises.  

When I go song scouting, I would listen to a few songs and then, not too long after, I would hit “play” for the last time, because this time, the song I am listening too has caught my attention, some-how it connects with me and my story and my experiences.

Song scouting, is fun, I love the excitement of finding that new song; there is a thrill about it. Many times, it is a song that I can enjoy singing as well, or I can see myself ministering the said song to others. It is also rewarding to go deeper, researching the song and finding out about the Writer, his walk with God, and the story behind the song, I just fell in love with.  Recently, I scouted, and I found “As it is (In Heaven)” by Hillsong.     I love this song very much.  It speaks to me!  It’s now my newest favourite.

Let me say that many of these songs have ministered to me, and I am truly grateful to experience a true free spirit of Worship.   Contemporary worship has really helped me to relate to God on a deeper level that allows me to be broken and intimate at his feet.

Whenever you go song scouting, be sure to listen to the words carefully, try to understand the context or the story line and ask yourself, “Is this song in line with the Word of God?”

Here are the words of my newest favourite.

Verse 1
Whether now or then
Death is not my end
I know heaven waits for me
Though the road seems long
I’ll never walk alone
I’ve got all I need to sing

Pre-Chorus
I know You love me
I know You found me
I know You saved me
And Your grace will never fail me
And while I’m waiting
I’m not waiting
I know heaven lives in me

Verse 2
Should I suffer long
This is not my home
I know heaven waits for me
Though the night is dark
Heaven owns my heart
I’ve got all I need to sing

Chorus
So I will sing like I will there
In the fearless light of glory
Where the darkness cannot find me
And Your face is all I see
I will sing like a man
With no sickness in my body
Like no prison walls can hold me
I will sing like I am free

Bridge 1
I’ll sing holy holy
My heart cries holy
As it is in heaven
It is in me

Bridge 2
We’ll sing holy holy
The earth cries holy
As it is in heaven
So let it be

This song was written by Joel Houston and Ben Fielding.  This is the YouTube link https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=So97pmyDbVw

Joel Houston is the son of Brian and Bobbie Houston, Founders of Hillsong Church.  He is a Song Writer and Pastor.

Ben Fielding is an Australian born worship leader and songwriter. Some of his songs include
“Mighty to Save”, “This I believe”, “God is Able” and “Anchor”.

 

Single and Committed to Sexual Purity! Is it Possible!

Let me start off by saying that “Life is so beautiful when we are living it!!”  Why do we spend so much time worrying or investing in relationships that are going nowhere!

Are you a teenager or young adult and having difficulty imagining being single and sexually pure?   Consider the following;

Decide, Resolve, Declare!

We need to set goals, standards and expectations for ourselves.   We must first decide what we want in life and consequently identify the things we need to do or not do to achieve those goals.  While our parents are significant players in forming our moral standards and how we see ourselves, we must develop self-awareness, and personal thinking and reasoning abilities as we grow into independence and begin making decisions on our own.  It is not sufficient to have all A’s and B’s or a perfect GPA, you need to have conviction about your goals, your spiritual, moral and social beliefs.   Deciding, resolving and declaring who you are and where you are heading, can be difficult, especially if you are seeking to be guided by the beliefs of others, by what is fashionable and by what is popular.  It is difficult because fashion and popularity and even the belief of others waiver, they change, they are conditional and are often driven by bigger players like, laws, customs and money.

I found one thing to be constant, sound and reliable and that is God and his Word.   Consider building your resolutions and declarations around a God who has a track record for sound decisions, faithfulness, unconditional love and a manual for living, that is practical and relevant no matter how many generations have come and gone.

Build-up, nourish, enrich!

I believe we know ourselves more than anyone else; our weak tendencies, our selfish desires, the things we are trying to overcome.  We all need to be wise, as we seek to enrich ourselves, as we seek to resist the habits and practices that would rob us from a truly fulfilled life.

All you need to do is quickly assess your life.   Do your friends seek to encourage you to do the right thing, are they concerned about your well-being, whether you are happy, the quality of decisions you make.  In other words, do your friends really care?  You need to surround yourself with people who truly care for you.  It means that they would love you enough to caution you of the possible dangers you can encounter because of your choices.

The Word of God would nourish and enrich you, it should not be ignored or taken for granted.  For you to feel the lasting effects of God word, you need to read, meditate and apply it daily.  There are many good books available from you to choose from; in your local bookstores and online, make good use of them.  Reading, momentarily takes you away from your current environment, into another experience, another world that requires you to stretch your imagination, to think.  You find yourself stepping within the covers of the book and it steels your attention away from what is going on around you.  It is important therefore to choose good books; books that would educate you, broaden your perspective and provide insight on matters on common interests.  Seek to choose books that would inspire you to live a purposeful life.

Additionally, in some countries there are clubs you can join, summer programmes and other healthy activities you can participate in.   Volunteering to teach at summer schools or to assist your former school during its annual sports or fair or some other annual activity can be beneficial as well.  The goal here is as you give of yourself and as you serve, you would allow yourself to become more enriched.

Church programmes can be very beneficial.  I wish to warn you about being religious and engaging in activities that makes no sense, activities that are superficial and gives you a false sense of well-being.  Everything we do in life needs to make sense if life is going to be meaningful.  The Lord Jesus did not come to offer religion but rather life and life abundantly; the kind of life that allows you to experience change and to help impact others positively.   Your church should encourage sexual purity as well, through its teaching and its programmes.

Personally, I have found that special events can really boost you, I am speaking of events such as Concerts and Conferences; some of them happens once a year.   Many of them involve people who have experienced extra-ordinary struggles, and miracles and God has raised them up to be a voice.

Date intentionally; Date purposefully!

This article is about living single and remain sexually pure and yet we have not used the word single much and the word “sex” has not been mentioned only once before.  It is important to understand why, staying pure while living single is no magic, it requires effort and discipline and surrounding yourself with the right practices would help to provide that safe zone that would support you, making it easier for you to do the right thing.  Think about it, imagine you have been given a letter, it is in a white envelope and you do not wish for it to get soil.  I would think you would not take it to the garden with you or to the kitchen or to the bathroom; I would think, you would not place in on the floor or anywhere, where it will be exposed to anything that can tarnish its purity. I call it common sense!

If you create the setting that would make it easy for you to make bad decisions and live carelessly, you would surely experience consequences that would cause you to regret.

Bearing this in mind, here are some reasons you should not date someone;

  • Because you don’t want to hurt the person by saying no;
  • Because he or she is popular or cute;
  • Because you are longing to go on a date and this person is going to make it happen;
  • Because you feel pressured by your friends or by your church to go on a date;
  • Because you think time is running out for you; you are getting old.

This can also help; Don’t go dating unless;

  • You are seriously considering marriage in the future;
  • You believe that your time should not be wasted and anytime spent with anyone should be quality time only;
  • You have prayed about it or sought the advice of someone you respect, and you are comfortable doing it.
  • You have both discuss expectations and boundaries and there is no conflict there.
  • Your date is also interested in marriage and It is their desire to date intentionally.

Trust God!

Simply trust God to work things out.  Please understand that even if you put everything in place to ensure your dating is purposeful, it may not work out. simply because it is not meant to be.   Continue to live and enjoy your single-hood.

There is so much I could say, but I don’t believe in giving my readers too much to swallow at one time; conditions for choking, right?

I encourage you not to allow society to pressure you to do anything.   God’s standards for man are still good and comes with numerous perks and blessings.   Live your life with purpose!!

Single and Committed to Sexual Purity! Is it Possible! YES!

Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.”

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The pendants of the featured necklaces were hand-made by Roland Benjamin, a contemporary visual Artist, who is from Grenada.  He creates art using valuable resources that we find in our environment.  Roland believes in the power of creative ingenuity and design, and has a passion for working with wood, leather and other fine precious metal.

The Pendant on the left is made of White Cedar, decorated with Wilks’ (Sea Snails) Shells, with a strip of leather at the top.  The pieces are tied together using copper wire. The Pendant on the right is made of Campeche Wood, with a Ring of Coral and again Wilks’ Shells.  The pieces are tied together using stainless steel.

When I saw these pendants, I thought they were beautiful and I decided, while I would love to keep them, I would rather enjoy the thrill of giving them away.  So, with the help of “This and That” Craft Shop in Grenada, I added silk twine to the one on the left and a suede chord to the one on the right, with rings and clasps, making them into exquisite necklaces.  I really love them, and I hope whoever is blessed to get them would love them and take  very good care of them.   The pieces of wood (white Cedar & Campeche) can be maintained by applying a little mineral oil every now and them.

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You are my inspiration! Thank you!!

I started this blog on my birthday, September 25th, 2017,  to be exact, and today five months after, I know more than ever, that I made the right decision.

I prayed about it, pondered on the idea because I never wanted to just do something because it sounded good.  I try to please God in every decision I make.   I have not done so every time, but I can say most times.

This blog gave me an opportunity to breathe, to exhale, to share things as the Holy Spirit would prompt and nudge me to.   I have been blessed by your feedback, online as well as offline, I have been truly inspired by your kind words.

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Thinking about teens and young adults and PURPOSE!

This article is written out of a passion and understanding of the mind and heart of the teen and young adult, who are just as valuable as the well-established adult, who has enjoyed a level of success and has earned their voice.

Questions I would love to ask every youth:

Do you feel restricted as a youth? Do you think no one understands you?  Do you often feel misjudged and underestimated?  Do you feel out of place and alone? Do you often ask, “What do adults think of youth?”

Here is one thing to consider; adults often misjudge you or they perceive who you are based on their experiences at you age and today’s stereotypes. You are either disrespectful, or you cannot be trusted, or you are interested in doing all the wrong things.  Maybe you are often described as rebellious heading towards a slippery slope to destruction.  Some may even say to you, “you are a waste of time”, undependable and more.  I know it can be painful to have these tags pinned on you, and you know to yourself, you are not like that.

Let’s flip the page; you are also seen by some as “smart”, promising and as having great potential.

Staying positive

Please understand that parents and adults, are becoming more and more knowledgeable and are better guarded, these days, against abusive or demeaning communication that damage your image and corrupt the healthy perception you may have about yourself. Parents are being exposed to parental skills that are allowing them to be more effective. You are essential to that learning experience, whether you like it or not. One must admit the importance of having your parent’s approval, it is something any son or daughter lives for.  You, however must remember the importance of staying positive even when that approval is not forthcoming.

 Some of your parents are “old-schooled”, as we say.   They do not know how to patiently communicate to you and to reason with you, giving you the opportunity to be educated on the reasons and that context that drives them to make decisions about you and what discipline measures should be meted out and when. But the truth is, parents, for the most part of it, love their kids and are willing to make extreme sacrifices to make sure their needs are met daily.

Once you seek to understand how your parents think, you would be a better recipient of their grooming and training and their disciplinary measures, if you seriously think about it, these disciplinary measures are not taken with the intent to destroy you but rather to break bad habits and build the new. Their aim is to steer you in the right direction.  Choosing to be positive about your childhood experiences, and to embrace every growing up situation as a learning opportunity, would you allow you to show an attitude of appreciation, objectivity and love.

Grown-ups may misjudge you, they may put you down, not expecting you to amount to anything much.  This requires you to keep believing in your ability, your strength, your gifts and your potential. Do not listen to inappropriate statements or lies about who you are and your abilities.  Focus on the truth about you.  This would allow you to focus on being obedient, thereby seeing the big picture, even when you feel that you have been disrespected by the way you are misjudged or spoken to.  In these times, you need to search within and believe in who you are and who you are growing up to be.  God places the same amount of value on you as he places on an adult.

Maintaining respect with a voice

It is important that you seek to honour your parents; it is a fact that they are ordained by God to be your parents, to nurture, protect and support you towards independence and good success.

Consider this verse:

Proverbs 6:20 “My son, keep thy father’s commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother.”

Solomon is writing these words, but they are words that are inspired by God himself.  When we honour and obey our parents, we are allowing God’s authority on earth to rule over us and to influence us, we are allowing God to protect us. Parents are filled with wisdom, parental instincts and discernment and generally when they speak, they speak from a deep place, out of sincere love and care for us and a wealth of experience and foresight.

As teens and young adults, you are now able to reason and form your own opinion about endless topics.  This means, that at times you would have a contribution to make, an explanation to give when you feel misunderstood, or even a solution to offer when problems arise. You now find yourself more knowledgeable, on some subject areas, than your parents, because of your learning experiences at school, college, and other educational forums.  What is important is that your approach is polite at all times, but showing assertiveness and confidence in who you are. Do not doubt your ability to speak-up when you need to and to defend yourself ONLY when it is necessary.

You see, with such an attitude like this, you are preparing yourself for success, you are contributing to your future self, by honouring your God-provided authority. It’s his provision for you, to keep you safe.  When you can acknowledge that, you are growing in knowledge, wisdom and into your independence, and at the same time remain humble enough to listen to those who nurtured and cared for you, in the tender stages of your life, you have undoubtedly matured into someone of sound character ready to face life.

The opposite outcome is sad, a youth who scoffs at the very people who loves you best, a youth who does not understand the comparison of his limited experience and knowledge and that of the adult who has walked the walk and talked the talk, one that has truly experience failure, got back up and has since experienced sustained victory.

My prayer is that you would understand your value and the reason you have a voice, even as a teenager and as a young adult; that you would want to stay under God’s protective authority so that you can be thoroughly prepared to present your God-given gifts to the world. Your voice should be his voice.

 Resisting negative influences for better

Let’s face it, there are negative influences in life. Do a quick look around and reflect on your friends or acquaintances who have somehow veered of track.  Maybe they dropped out of school or they did not achieve the minimum passes to graduate from high school.  Maybe they experimented with drugs or alcohol and got trapped.  Some may have chosen the fast life, the parties, popularity, sex and fashion, in place of education and self-development.  The point here is that examples of consequences of trying to escape the influence of the authorities, placed in your life for your protection, is evident around you.  It shows us the bad choices to stay away from.

The book of Proverbs, in the bible, has good influential sayings that you can ponder on; it is endless and boundless, once you start reading it, you would not want to stop.

Here is an example; “A wise son heareth his father’s instruction; but a scorner heareth not rebuke”. WOW!  This one is taken from Proverbs chapter thirteen (13) verse one (1).  Here is another; Proverbs 1:7 “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.” I tell you there is so much more where those two verses came from.

We are talking influence; who or what influences your life; is it your closest friends? Is it that R&B song star? Is it what’s going on social media, or is it what’s going on at school, college or university?  Are you influenced by positive forward-looking sources that you are not ashamed to talk about?   It is important that you choose wisely.

Seek to surround yourself with people that would allow you to be the authentic you, where there is no pressure, whatsoever, to be someone or something else.  Clad yourself with wise people, whose aim in life is to live a life of meaning and substance. Your associates should provoke you to discover your gifts and use them with all your heart, mind and soul.  Value those who would pull you aside and tell you openly, just the way they see it, those who would warn you about the dangers ahead. Importantly, do not put your friends in front of your family.  Seek to build your relationships with your family, far and near, do not neglect them.

Music is also very influential; don’t choose the beat or the melody first, choose the lyrics first.  Have you seriously considered what you are listening to and why?

 Allow me to focus a bit on social media, some describe you as “socially curious and curiously social”.  Some researchers believe that social media has done more bad for young people than good. Forbes shares an article written by Alice G. Walton, on some of the negative effects it has on our mental health.

Alice studied Biopsychology at Vassar College and later received her Ph.D. In Biopsychology and Behavioural Neuroscience at CUNY’s Graduate Centre in New York City.  Alice writes about health and is a Forbes contributor.

I found the information she shared on the “negative effects of social media” to be interesting, and have chosen to share a snippet of it.   You can always read the entire article “6 Ways Social Media affects our Mental Health” on https://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2017/06/30/a-run-down-of-social-medias-effects-on-our-mental-health/#3c0d2cee2e5a

Alice points out that social media is addictive, a trigger of sadness and a lack of well-being, it encourages comparison with others, which is unhealthy.  She also mentions that it can lead to jealousy and gives a false feeling that you have lots of friends and are socialising.  A review study, conducted by Nottingham Trent University, of earlier research led them to conclude that “it may be plausible to speak specifically of “Facebook Addiction Disorder” because addiction criteria, such as neglect of personal life, mental preoccupation, escapism, mood modifying experiences, tolerance and concealing the addictive behaviour, seem to be present in some people who use social networks excessively.”

As it relates to comparing ourselves with others, Alice believes that, we yield to comparisons when we scroll through our feeds and make judgements about how we measure up. One study looked at how we make comparisons to other’s posts, that is, we either feel that we are better or worse off than our friends.  The study revealed something that was thought provoking, as it was seen that both type of comparisons made people feel worse, but in real life people generally felt better when comparing themselves with others, coming away with the feeling that they are “better than”.  This however is not the same on social media, any kind of comparison has proven to be dangerous and can lead to depression.   Be free to read more of Alice’s article by clicking the link provided above.

Be careful also about your religious affiliations.  Seek something greater than just a religion; I urge you to seek intimacy with the one who created you, God himself. Let him saturate your mind body and soul. He is not someone to run from, but rather to run to.  He can awaken you to wisdom and intelligence, you would never imagine.  You think you have intelligence? You need to meet the Almighty, most high God who owns all knowledge.  Now we’re talking!

You may feel that you are on your way to great success, and that what is important in life, is accumulating wealth and living it up, or you may feel as a failure, a waste of time. Whichever side you are one, God’s influence on your life can get you in sound spiritual shape, that will leave you thinking straight.

Consider this verse, one of my favorites:

Jeremiah 29:11

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”

Consider this one also;

Psalm 119:9 “Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed thereto according to thy word.”

My wrap on this

The experiences of our lives differ.  Some persons can speak of growing up in comfort while others can only remember, disappointment, neglect and pain.  Whatever the situation, I wish to inspire you to look up, thank God for bringing you thus far, for your success and your failures. See yourself as moving humbly forward, understanding that you are only human, and you need others, but most of all you need someone greater, God himself.  Accept the truth about life, it does have its dangers and traps, but there are those that God has placed in your life and will continue to place there, to provide the nurture and training you need to grow. 

Do everything possible to allow the positive influences to impact your life, run from all that is not wholesome.   And don’t forget the book of Proverbs, start reading it today.

Feel like chatting about something that resonates with you? Send me an e-mail or a comment.  I would love to interact with you on this article.

Have fun working on you

I am sitting here thinking how much I love my son.   He is sixteen (16) years old, intelligent, witty, sensitive and focused.  I always find myself, however, wondering if I am being a good mother. I want him to not just develop academically, but socially, emotionally and spiritually.  I want him to have a wonderful life.

So, this note is for you teens and young adults.  Every day, aspire to work on you, to develop the quality of your thoughts and your heart.  Every day, aspire to build good habits that you will be proud of.

I thought of some great habits you can build and I hope by sharing them, you will be inspired to look beyond the academic qualifications you are pursuing, and seek to enrich your life otherwise.

  1. Seek to tell the truth at all times; building a habit of truth-telling would allow persons to trust you easily.
  2. When you loan something from your friend, return it to them when you are expected to; if you don’t, there will be times when you really need a help-out and persons would be skeptical to help you.
  3. Be helpful at home; the habit of laziness is a terrible one.  No one wants to be called lazy.   When it is time for selecting a group of persons, to work on special projects, or to be the recipient of a special award, it is the people who value working that would shine.
  4. Do not be loud and noisy in public; you may be perceived as someone who talks too much.
  5. Practise talking less and thinking more.
  6. Most importantly, honour your parents; do little things to appreciate them; be in a habit of saying “Thank you”.

Loving your teens and young adults

It is a great opportunity to positively impact the lives of young people.   At the point where they are slowly growing to understand themselves and into independence, they can make the worst decisions ever.  It is an experience every adult tasted notwithstanding we all came from different family backgrounds.

One of the ways we can positively impact a young person’s life, is to sponsor their participation in a personal development programme.   It may be to play a musical instrument, or learn a foreign language, or even serve on “The Logos” or some other place where your focus is on serving others. These are practical ways of helping teens and young adults to discover their God-given purpose; the reason God created them, the reason that they are breathing.

Here are some other tips to help them find purpose in their lives:

  • Be an excellent example of time management.
  • Coach them on time management by assigning them tasks to be completed within a specific time period.
  • Recognise their efforts to improve and lovingly point out what went wrong and why, so that they can improve even more.
  • Teach them to be accountable for their actions by asking questions like; “What did you have in mind?”, “What was your intention?” “Why did you do it?”. Do not judge them by declaring to them the reasons for their actions. You can be dead wrong and it is better for them to tell you.
  • Have meaningful discussions with them linking their current actions with the future; it is important for them to understand how their actions today can affect their lives tomorrow.
  • Give them the freedom they need to mingle, to discover themselves and to discover life in a wholesome and safe way.
  • Don’t preach to them, listen before you speak and discuss and share experiences with them rather than lecture in an “I know better” mode.

The above tips would help teens and young adults to value time and seek to use it wisely.   It would also help them to develop the ability to examine their actions and decisions and to determine whether these would positively impact their lives in the future.   These tips would also increase the probability of you having great relationships with the teens and young adults in your life.

 

That youthful spirit…..

When I look back at my life as a teenager and a young adult, I begin to count my blessings, 1,2,3,4, well not literally, but counting them for real should be fun.    I am reminded of a song by Sinach Joseph called “He did it again”.   It says; “I’m counting my blessings, I just can’t keep it to myself.  When I thought that he has done too much, oh oh oh, Jesus did it again.”

I often feel there is so much to release from my bowels, so much to share, so much to say.   You see positive experiences in life are not to be shelved or hidden, but rather to be shared with others. When we open up to others and share our positive experiences, it ignites hope and suggests that there is a  possibility that things can change.

I dreamt a lot as a youth, I dreamt and I believed, I dreamt and I claimed, I dreamt and I worked.  It was the best days of my life because I dreamt and refused to accept that hindrances existed.  I really don’t remember doubting or thinking that “I can’t”.  Fear would come but I would do it anyhow.  Consequently, I enjoyed the rewards and I felt it was well deserved because of the choices I made.  My choices emerged from the godly beliefs and principles embedded in my soul.   I was determined to walk the straight and narrow and I did it with expectations of a blessed life.    I resolved to follow Jesus; when I fell down, I got back up, when I fell down again, I got back up again.

Your story may be completely different and that’s ok, it does not mean that you are of lesser value.  It means that you have hurdles to climb over and bridges to cross and so you might as well put on your shoes and start walking towards your purpose.