Loving your teens and young adults

It is a great opportunity to positively impact the lives of young people.   At the point where they are slowly growing to understand themselves and into independence, they can make the worst decisions ever.  It is an experience every adult tasted notwithstanding we all came from different family backgrounds.

One of the ways we can positively impact a young person’s life, is to sponsor their participation in a personal development programme.   It may be to play a musical instrument, or learn a foreign language, or even serve on “The Logos” or some other place where your focus is on serving others. These are practical ways of helping teens and young adults to discover their God-given purpose; the reason God created them, the reason that they are breathing.

Here are some other tips to help them find purpose in their lives:

  • Be an excellent example of time management.
  • Coach them on time management by assigning them tasks to be completed within a specific time period.
  • Recognise their efforts to improve and lovingly point out what went wrong and why, so that they can improve even more.
  • Teach them to be accountable for their actions by asking questions like; “What did you have in mind?”, “What was your intention?” “Why did you do it?”. Do not judge them by declaring to them the reasons for their actions. You can be dead wrong and it is better for them to tell you.
  • Have meaningful discussions with them linking their current actions with the future; it is important for them to understand how their actions today can affect their lives tomorrow.
  • Give them the freedom they need to mingle, to discover themselves and to discover life in a wholesome and safe way.
  • Don’t preach to them, listen before you speak and discuss and share experiences with them rather than lecture in an “I know better” mode.

The above tips would help teens and young adults to value time and seek to use it wisely.   It would also help them to develop the ability to examine their actions and decisions and to determine whether these would positively impact their lives in the future.   These tips would also increase the probability of you having great relationships with the teens and young adults in your life.

 

Feels like intimacy to me.

The Songs are announced one after the other, there is a flow.
I allow myself to sink into a cushion of sweetness where my
mind begins to fall victim to the power therein.
It is a familiar feeling; I have been there before.

With great anticipation, I slowly evict the thoughts in my mind
that doesn’t belong to the moment.
With great anticipation, I slowly lift my hands in
adoration to the one I love.

Before I know it, my heart is filled, my mind is saturated
with his cool presence.
With great anticipation, I open my spirit for more of his
Presence, as I long to draw closer to the one I love.

It’s that moment when I find sweet fellowship with my Saviour.
Those moments when I desire, despite my stubborn heart, more.
More of the accessible assurance and comfort of his presence;
The presence that shakes you to the core and gives you a desire
to walk away from hell, into his heavenly arms.
Intimacy……..

 

There is more to the clothes you wear.

 

Do you place more value on your clothes, when they can outlast a season, or a fashion spurt and still be worn and seen as appropriate for the day?  I am personally determined not to let fashion trends  dictate to me how often I should buy clothes.   Don’t get me wrong, I love observing fashion trends, taking note of the creativity and originality of great designers.

As a woman, I do enjoy the fun aspect of dressing;  I think it is exciting! I am also aware of the fact that maintaining my originality is also important.  It requires me therefore, to pursue balance in my choice of clothes, it is not something anyone should take for granted.   Your clothes can say a lot about you.   It can communicate to those you have never met, seen or spoken to; it can communicate who you are.

So, as we explore clothes, fashion and design, we are also exploring who we are and how we want to be represented.   What you wear can show to others, that you are comfortable in your own skin; what you wear can also show that you are unhappy, miserable or bitter inside.   It can also be you screaming desperately “I do not love or value myself”.

It is important to understand that self-love is healthy, it is important for us to accept and love ourselves. if we ought to love others. The word of God admonishes us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves.  We often feel that what we wear is just that, clothes worn, not understanding that we select our clothes based on how we feel about ourselves.

On the other hand, it is not right to judge someone based on what they are wearing, remember there are cultural differences and practices that heavily influence our way of dress.  We are also on varied levels of knowledge and understanding and as we grow, we understand how to better present ourselves to the World.

I wish to inspire you to accept the value God has placed on your life; he sees you as worthy enough to die for, he died on the cross for you, so that you can have life abundantly.  It is a priceless gift that is extended to every man.   When we understand our value to God, we are transformed inside and outside.  We can do no less but to make sure when we step-out, we represent the King.   Once God’s perspective of you has captivated your heart, it shows.

Next time you go shopping for that new suit, dress or shirt, ask yourself if your choices are in keeping with your value and with your purpose.

Tips for a Successful Marriage!

  1. Avoid giving each other the silent treatment, talk about everything.
  2. Sleep on the same bed, share the same bedroom (it is your “haven” your “save me” spot where privacy should be guaranteed)
  3. Avoid doing things or habits that your husband/wife seriously dislikes.
  4. Listen when you are being spoken to, do not interrupt while your husband/wife is speaking to you because you know better or you are angry.
  5. Work out your problems privately, if you need help from an outside party, agree together who that trusted person will be.
  6. Be honest at all times to ensure trust is maintained, do not allow your husband/wife to believe something that is not true by staying silent.
  7. Go out together, get out of the house and do special things together that would build healthy memories and add colour to your lives.
  8. Forgive your husband/wife when they have done wrong.
  9. Study the word of God together; pray together.

Try these tips and watch your marriage flourish!!! 

(To be continued…..)

Feel free to share your views on the tips shared…..

Moringa – A Healthy Choice!

Have you ever heard about the Moringa Tree?  “Trees for Life International” has shared an enormous amount of information, it will amaze you.  Seriously!!!  http://www.treesforlife.org/our-work/our-initiatives/moringa.

Moringa Diagram: Tiny leaves. Enourmous benefits.

In Grenada, where I live we also have the Moringa Tree and many have tried to be industrious with the various parts of the tree.

I am in love with the work of Eleanor Swan (featured picture) a Small Business Entrepreneur who manufactures soaps from the moringa plant.  She also produces T-Bags from the leaves of the tree.   The name of Eleanor’s business is “Spice up your life creations”.   Love the name!

I am sharing this because it is a clear example of someone who is seeking to live their life to the fullest.    One of my admirations for this business is that there are bible verses printed on the packages; awesome!

Eleanor also does beautiful  hand-made cards; I must say making hand-made cards is fun and inspiring.

Let me know if you wish to contact Eleanor through my contact form.

You may want to ask yourself “What am I drinking?” is Moringa Tea a better choice?

Let’s take advantage of the healthy opportunities around us and in turn support small businesses driven by God-given purpose.

Have a healthy & creative day!!

Love this quote by Terrie Chappell:

“Failing to be perfect is no reason to quit striving for the goal!”

Sometimes we think we have found the perfect excuse, only to realise that it is no excuse at all.

That youthful spirit…..

When I look back at my life as a teenager and a young adult, I begin to count my blessings, 1,2,3,4, well not literally, but counting them for real should be fun.    I am reminded of a song by Sinach Joseph called “He did it again”.   It says; “I’m counting my blessings, I just can’t keep it to myself.  When I thought that he has done too much, oh oh oh, Jesus did it again.”

I often feel there is so much to release from my bowels, so much to share, so much to say.   You see positive experiences in life are not to be shelved or hidden, but rather to be shared with others. When we open up to others and share our positive experiences, it ignites hope and suggests that there is a  possibility that things can change.

I dreamt a lot as a youth, I dreamt and I believed, I dreamt and I claimed, I dreamt and I worked.  It was the best days of my life because I dreamt and refused to accept that hindrances existed.  I really don’t remember doubting or thinking that “I can’t”.  Fear would come but I would do it anyhow.  Consequently, I enjoyed the rewards and I felt it was well deserved because of the choices I made.  My choices emerged from the godly beliefs and principles embedded in my soul.   I was determined to walk the straight and narrow and I did it with expectations of a blessed life.    I resolved to follow Jesus; when I fell down, I got back up, when I fell down again, I got back up again.

Your story may be completely different and that’s ok, it does not mean that you are of lesser value.  It means that you have hurdles to climb over and bridges to cross and so you might as well put on your shoes and start walking towards your purpose.

It’s time to engage and inspire our youth

Oh I remember my youth clearly.   It was such a peaceful and safe moment in my life.   I am quite aware however, that this is not every youth’s experience.

For me it was safe because I grew up in a Christian family.   I did have my challenges however which I would speak a lot more about as this topic grows.

For now, look around you and identify the teens and young adults and just give them some love.  Don’t be too critical today!!