Inspire to be Inspired Women’s Conference – June 30th, 2018 – My experience!

On entering the room, I was pleased to see how the room was decorated, black, gold and yellow.   On the table was a lovely vase with purple and yellow flowers.  The lights in the ceiling changed colours adding to the ambiance of the room.   I felt welcomed, after all the room was prepared for me and all the other women who had also booked the date.  My spirit was lifted and I was filled with anticipation.  The moment was finally here!

The advertised  “Inspire to be Inspired Women’s Conference” hosted by “Tailored by Terrieann”, was finally about to unfold at Venus, Grand Anse, St. George’s, Grenada.

When I first heard about it, I felt a stir within me, I think it was the word “inspire”.  I love that word and what it represents.  About a year ago, God spoke to me through a very good friend.  She often commented on my Facebook posts, noting that they inspired her.  One day she said to me “You should start a Blog”, little did she know that the Holy Spirit had already given me the nudge, in that direction, and I was struggling with it.   Long story short, my blog was started soon after and I called it “InspireMe”.    Now, you should understand why I immediately connected to the Ad on the then upcoming Women’s Conference.

I seriously considered attending and immediately booked the date.  I thought to myself that the oganiser, Mrs. Terrieann Charles was certainly passionate about inspiring other women.   I wondered about her story, her journey and looked forward to learning more.   I remember wondering if this Conference would reach me.  You see, often when we have been exposed to much learning and have been afforded the opportunity to serve others, in so many different capacities, we often think “this is not for me” and we can be so wrong.

The early moments of the Conference met us listening to a YouTube video with Steve Harvey” Above Inspiration”.  The early birds listened while the room slowly filled up with attendees and their light happy chatter.  I found it a little difficult to focus amidst the stir of persons settling in and was only able to pick up bits and pieces but, I guess you know what I did, I listened to the video again, in the comfort of my home. 😊

Steve started off with this quote by Albert Einstein;

“Imagination is everything, it is the preview to life’s coming attractions” Then he said, “Your real life is in your imagination.”  This statement woke me up..

Steve Harvey pointed out, that we don’t need all these fancy books, telling us how to be rich, powerful and positive, because the reality is, all these principles are taken straight from the Bible.  Whooohooo! Love this!   After uttering such a powerful statement, he quoted one of my favourite verses: “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen” – Hebrews 11:1.

What is important here, is the connection made between Hebrews 11:1, and Einstein’s quote.  He pointed out that our life is not in our current situation but rather in what we imagine, what we hope for, what truly makes us happy, and faith is demonstrated, as we leap forward to reach for those dreams, to make them a reality. Very appropriate video for the moment!    Hear is the link if you wish to listen;

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Xcuc7nfWGY

There is so much more I can share about the Conference, but I can’t write about everything,  so here are some other highlights:

I loved the Break-out Session

It was called “Speed Dating” and It really achieved the objective of getting the women to mix and know each other a little.  It certainly helped to break the ice that is created, when a group of persons are in a room together for the first time.  I have seen it work many times.

Featured Speakers, in the order of their presentations were;  Dawn Mark, Denisha Daniel and Victoria Preville.

From left to Right;
Denisha Daniel, Dawn Mark, Victoria Preville

I was only familiar with Dawn, the other two speakers were new to me; I enjoyed all three presentations.

Dawn is the Founder of E-Dawn Coaching & Consulting ( check her out on Facebook), she addressed the important concept of Goal Setting and trust me, if you want to live a meaningful life, you must learn to set goals. Dawn pointed out that, our Values are usually the driving force that determines the kind of goals we set.  For example:  If you value education, one of your goals may be to pursue higher education.

It is also important that once these goals are set, we acknowledge the external factors that motivate us and use them to our advantage, but also find ways to allow ourselves to be internally motivated; this is what helps us to persevere.  Hope in turn, inspires you and spurs you on to keep pushing towards the finishing line.

The second speaker was Denisha, an Accountant, by occupation. She struck me as a young lady with great potential for Public Speaking.  I really enjoyed her presentation.  It was fueled by her personal experience.   She allowed God to speak through her personality, as she related a personal story, showing us that we need to overcome fear to become successful.

Fear often comes between us and hinders us from moving forward, from acting; fear is destructive.   Denisha pointed out that fear gives us a limited scope on life; all it does is just feed us the negative; it truly blurs our vision.

We were encouraged to step into our fear and face our monsters.

This question lingered in my mind and I think it was my favourite take-away from this presentation; “What is that thing that is in you that could push you forward and help someone else’s life to be better?”.  In other words, you never know, who you would inspire, if you could only find the courage to face your fears.  Your victory story, would do amazing things in the life of others.

The last featured speaker was Victoria Preville.   She touched on her personal struggle briefly, linking it to her current success.   Victoria is originally from St. Lucia but lives in New York, and is the Founder of Nu Luna.  You can check them out on Facebook.

Victoria hit rock bottom, coming from a life of comfort to being homeless, BUT, she was able to rise-up and embrace hope again.   Victoria is now in the business of transforming the lives of other women; she visits various shelters around the world, empowering women to face the world, to begin life a-new; she dresses women for Good success.

Victoria’s presentation spoke to us, she said “Sometimes our calling is to create a business that would transform someone’s life, give them a new start, a new perspective, hope and the possibility of seeing their dreams come through”.  WOW!! She reminded us that true fulfillment comes, not when we have all the money we need, but when we are living our dreams, when we are living a life of purpose, when we are helping to change someone’s life for the better.

Attendees were encouraged to ask themselves “What is that gift I am sitting on?”.  We were warned against sitting and doing nothing about our gifts, less they get transferred to someone else and we lose the opportunity and the blessing.

There were also group discussions that allowed the attendees to take a deeper look into some of life’s probing questions, looking at comparing ourselves with others, social media, friendship and relationships.

The Conference was filled with light moments; laughter and giveaways, which certainly added to the experience, making the evening a memorable one.

I cannot fail to mention how honoured  I was to be given the opportunity to minister in song.  About two months ago, I wrote this song “Let Faith Arise” I did not know then, that the words of the song would fit so well with Terrieann’s theme for her Women’s Conference.  It was certainly a privilege and a blessing.

Love this picture with the Host Terrieann.

“Let Faith Arise”   (1st Vs & Chorus)

Vs 1

Here you’re sitting, contemplating anxiously

Here you’re thinking, over thinking senselessly

But you’ve got dreams

Chorus

Let faith arise, won’t you walk by faith and not by sight

Get up, get ready, set, Go!

I am extremely grateful to the Hosts for the opportunity, I do feel encouraged to share more of my songs with the world.

I am glad I met Terrieann,  I am inspired by her youthful discipline and energy. I was delighted to see her husband share the stage with her, supporting her fully.   In my quest to find out more about the brain behind this experience, I asked Terrieann two questions, which she gracefully answered;

  1. How long did you nurse this dream before launching out?
  2. How did your relationship with God help you to finally launch out?

Terrieann’s Response

“Honestly, it was not a dream.   I never knew or had the slightest clue that Tailored by Terrieann was going to be birthed.  I remember attending an event in 2016 and one of the presenters, Carlana Charles, was speaking about business, and I was intrigued because I was always fascinated with business. So after the event I communicated with her and she told me about a weekend startup she was having the following Saturday and Sunday.   I invested in that workshop and that’s where tailored by Terrieann, was birthed.  It was scary for me because I had no clue of what to do with this new task of becoming a blogger, but I embrace it with love and much attention”.

“Oh boy! I needed God now more than ever. I had to depend on God totally for strength to launch Tailored by Terrieann, because I was a novice in the blogging world.  I had no experience, at the time;  I did not know anyone else doing what I did,  so I felt lonely, but excited at the same time. I really had to learn to trust God, in every step of the way to help me to launch out.  My relationship with him grew significantly.”

Terrieann’s bravery to pursue a new idea of blogging, lead to many other things, including inspirational events such as the one I attended on 30th June, 2018.

As I wrap up, I wish to say that for me, and many others, God is the center of everything, I love that some of the speakers at the Conference were daring enough to say “I am a Christian”. I love the idea of diverting the attention away from ourselves and towards God.  He is truly deserving of all the glory, all the honour and all the praise!

Thanks to my two colleagues from work, who agreed to attend with me, I enjoyed hanging with you both and I know you were happy you came.

It is my prayer that the gifts, ideas and dreams bestowed upon us, women, would not be wasted and we would not sit, contemplating and over-thinking; we’ve got dreams and we need to get ready, set, go.

Let Faith Arise!

 

Discover a new Song! Song Scouting

I like sharing things that work for me.   Have you ever heard about song scouting?  Well, it’s no big promoted activity, it is simply searching for songs that you never heard before and listening to them for the first time.   I like scouting for songs when I need to relax a bit; when I wish to be refreshed in my spirit, and there is that stir within me to just bask in God’s goodness, on his character and on his promises.  

When I go song scouting, I would listen to a few songs and then, not too long after, I would hit “play” for the last time, because this time, the song I am listening too has caught my attention, some-how it connects with me and my story and my experiences.

Song scouting, is fun, I love the excitement of finding that new song; there is a thrill about it. Many times, it is a song that I can enjoy singing as well, or I can see myself ministering the said song to others. It is also rewarding to go deeper, researching the song and finding out about the Writer, his walk with God, and the story behind the song, I just fell in love with.  Recently, I scouted, and I found “As it is (In Heaven)” by Hillsong.     I love this song very much.  It speaks to me!  It’s now my newest favourite.

Let me say that many of these songs have ministered to me, and I am truly grateful to experience a true free spirit of Worship.   Contemporary worship has really helped me to relate to God on a deeper level that allows me to be broken and intimate at his feet.

Whenever you go song scouting, be sure to listen to the words carefully, try to understand the context or the story line and ask yourself, “Is this song in line with the Word of God?”

Here are the words of my newest favourite.

Verse 1
Whether now or then
Death is not my end
I know heaven waits for me
Though the road seems long
I’ll never walk alone
I’ve got all I need to sing

Pre-Chorus
I know You love me
I know You found me
I know You saved me
And Your grace will never fail me
And while I’m waiting
I’m not waiting
I know heaven lives in me

Verse 2
Should I suffer long
This is not my home
I know heaven waits for me
Though the night is dark
Heaven owns my heart
I’ve got all I need to sing

Chorus
So I will sing like I will there
In the fearless light of glory
Where the darkness cannot find me
And Your face is all I see
I will sing like a man
With no sickness in my body
Like no prison walls can hold me
I will sing like I am free

Bridge 1
I’ll sing holy holy
My heart cries holy
As it is in heaven
It is in me

Bridge 2
We’ll sing holy holy
The earth cries holy
As it is in heaven
So let it be

This song was written by Joel Houston and Ben Fielding.  This is the YouTube link https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=So97pmyDbVw

Joel Houston is the son of Brian and Bobbie Houston, Founders of Hillsong Church.  He is a Song Writer and Pastor.

Ben Fielding is an Australian born worship leader and songwriter. Some of his songs include
“Mighty to Save”, “This I believe”, “God is Able” and “Anchor”.

 

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Don’t hide your gift!

I  started writing songs as a teenager;  my sentiments is that while it can be a boring experience, it is also exciting and fulfilling.  It is a wonderful opportunity to share your stories through songs.    For some reason however, I never thought much about the songs I wrote.   I never felt fully confident about sharing.  Despite those feelings, I did share some of the songs I wrote and I have no regrets.  They were simple songs in my view, which exposed my humble upbringing and inexperience in song-writing and in music generally.

Despite my lack of  confidence, passion emerged, passion that is difficult to ignore.   Recently, I have taken a more serious approach to writing; this time, I have decided not to listen to the doubts in my head.  Now, I understand that  it is my purpose to write and to share what I write.   I need not be the one to assess whether my songs are good or bad.   What I  have come to realise, is that my focus was in the wrong place; I was just a little too concerned about whether my song was “good enough” to bless someone.

The days of hiding my songs are over.  While, I would critique my work and ask others to do the same, I am no longer defining God’s gift as “not good enough”.   So happy to see the light!  :).  I confess that I dream of writing that one song that would capture the heart of everyone who hears it, but more importantly, I dream to please God with every song I write.

In this season of my life, I am embracing song-writing anew, with divine purpose and determination.   It is all about purpose!

As God continues to unfold new and exciting projects in my life,  I would continue to share my story, but for now I share the words of the latest song I wrote;   “Let Faith Arise”

Many times we want to take that step but we keep ourselves down by allowing procrastination and doubtful thoughts to dictate our actions; we succumb to these thoughts and feelings, and we do nothing. We talk about faith but we don’t practice it.

It is from within this context that I wrote this song.    It is a motivation to myself to “let faith arise” and hopefully, it would stir you to act as well.  Don’t look down on your gift, acknowledge it and share it with the world.

Let faith arise

Vs 1

Here you’re sitting, contemplating anxiously

Here you’re thinking, over thinking senselessly

But you’ve got dreams

Chorus

Let faith arise, won’t you walk by faith and not by sight

Get up, get ready, set, Go!

Vs 2

If God is for me, who can be against me

Lord, I trust in your might

Lead me Lord, I will follow

May my life, be your light

Cause I’ve got dreams

Bridge

Saviour, like a shepherd lead me x 3

Lead me on, Lead me on

 

MALICE!! Part 2

Definition of MALICE –

“Extreme enmity of heart, or malevolence; a disposition to injure others without cause, from mere personal gratification or from a spirit of revenge; unprovoked malignity or spite.”    WOW!

Let me simplify this for you, “very strong hate against someone that would lead you to hurt them, all because you are envious of them, or you wish to get back at them because they did you wrong or simply because you have nursed a mean heart and enjoy hurting others.”

If you read part one of this article, you would’ve been introduced to this definition before.

MALICE!!   The word has been playing on my mind recently, and I think it is because I myself have been making every effort not to harbor malicious thoughts or rather not to harbor dangerous emotions and thoughts that could lead to MALICE.  I am allowing God to continuously sanctify me to purge me of those stubborn habits that are only set-backs and I desire that they have no part of me.

There are some interesting examples of MALICE in the Bible; let’s look at one of them;

Genesis 4:5 – But unto Cain and to his offering He (God) had not respect. And Cain was very wroth, and his countenance fell.

Let’s look at the entire story:

Verses 1-8 of Chapter 4

“And Adam knew (had sex with) Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the LORD.  And she again bore his brother Abel.  And Abel was a keeper of sheep, but Cain was a tiller of the ground.  And in process of time it came to pass, that Cain brought of the fruit of the ground an offering unto the LORD.  And Abel, he also brought of the firstlings of his flock and of the fat thereof.  And the LORD had respect unto Abel and to his offering:  But unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect. And Cain was very wroth, and his countenance fell.  And the LORD said unto Cain, why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen? If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door.  And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him. And Cain talked with Abel his brother: and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother, and slew him.”

This is so dread!

I wish to highlight a few important things about this story;

  • There were obviously conditions for a sacrifice to be acceptable; one Sacrifice was ordinary while the other represented effort made and was not ordinary.

Notice the descriptions given of the sacrifices

  • Cain’s Sacrifice – “off the fruit of the ground” “but unto Cain and his offering he had no respect”
  • Abel’s Sacrifice – “the firstlings of his flock and the fat thereof” “And the Lord had respect unto Abel and to his offering”
  • God openly expressed how he felt about each sacrifice.
  • Jealousy and envy took over Cain instead of self-examination; why didn’t he decide to do something about his sacrifice, instead of turning his attention to Abel?
  • He fed his anger, his jealousy, and his envy and it led him to thinking evil thoughts against his own brother and subsequently planning evil against him; Cain eventually killed Abel.

Do you see MALICE demonstrated here?

MALICE is very destructive and can interfere with your purpose.   It can disturb the positive impact you are meant to create.  For us to live life to the fullest, we must learn to control our emotions; they can really get us into trouble.  Untamed emotions can destroy our minds, our relationships and most of all, make it can make it difficult for us to achieve meaningful living.   Meaningful living is attained when we learn to deny ourselves of our own personal pleasures (good and bad) for the good of others, and ultimately the good of ourselves.   Cain should’ve been happy for Abel and seek only to do things that would protect his brother and uplift his brother, not hurt him.  Cain should’ve met with God in a quiet moment and make things right, he could’ve confessed “Lord I am sorry for dishonoring you with my Sacrifice”.   The consequences he experienced because of giving way to MALICE, was not worth it.  Feel free to read the rest of the chapter to discover the consequences faced by Cain.

Let’s try our best not to encourage early signs of MALICE, like jealousy and envy; it really can distract us from achieving God’s best for us in this life.

 

MALICE!! Part 1

Warning !!   Do not harbor malice!

Do you think thoughts are random and actions are just actions?  Do you think because you are imperfect, it is inevitable; you would do wrong, sooner than later.  Or maybe you believe, because you have been hurt, you have good reason to hate and to be bitter.

What is Malice?   I have been thinking about it a lot.   Let’s take our minds there a bit.  Look at the verses below, from the Bible, and see if they would help to unfold the meaning;

Colossians 3:8

But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, MALICE, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.

1 Corinthians 14:20

Brethren, be not children in understanding: howbeit in MALICE be ye children, but in understanding be men.

1 Peter 2: 1 & 2

Wherefore laying aside all MALICE and all guile, and hypocrisies, and envies, and all evil speaking.  As new-born babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby:

From reading the chapters these verses were taken from, I know that the instructions in these verses are directed to Followers of Christ, Believers.   The verses themselves gives us clues that they are directed to Believers.

Colossians 3:8 – “But now” – These two words tells us that conditions have changed, there is a past condition and a present condition. Now, that you have decided to make Christ the Lord of your life, things got to change.

1 Corinthians 14:20 – the clue in this verse is “Brethren” a word used to refer to a group of believers.

1 Peter 2: 1 & 2 – Verse two which begins “As new-born…” explains it all.  When man repents and receives the gift of Salvation, he is seen as a Babe in Christ, a baby in the Kingdom of God.

So, if you a believer, you should realise by now, that these verses are for you…..yep!  You have no excuse!  If MALICE is practiced by you, something is wrong, you need to begin by studying these passages and praying and asking God to convert your heart away from MALICE, into healthy thinking.   If you are not a believer, harboring malice would only hurt your relationship with others.

Let’s quickly look at the meaning and this discussion would continue later;

Definition of MALICE –

“Extreme enmity of heart, or malevolence; a disposition to injure others without cause, from mere personal gratification or from a spirit of revenge; unprovoked malignity or spite.”    WOW!

This could never be good, you mean we can just want to hurt someone else just to please ourselves?  How far can we go as human beings?

This is heavy!  I suggest we slow down and ponder on it for a while; it is a mouthful. It is also a good idea for you to do your own research on the word “MALICE”.

This discussion is just getting started.   See you on Thursday!!

Remove the Sun-shades, Live!

 

I think it is important for each of us to be comfortable in the body we are in; facing our past and present, ugly or not so ugly, or good.   Too many times we prefer to cover up, to keep the sun shades on our faces, because we feel safe, we feel as if we are tucked away from the harsh reality of the world and the way our critics look at us.   The sun-shades stays on, and our minds work overtime, trying to contain the passion which lies within.

We have forgotten that the clock never stops and that our life, which is hopefully seen as a gift, is meant to be lived.  I have not seen anyone living to their fullest behind the shades, No Way!   Instead, if you were granted the opportunity to look into their eyes, you would see, disappointment, doubt, confusion, fear, hate and bitterness, shame, despair and so much more.

If we ought to live life to the fullest, we MUST, remove the shades and enter the sunlight, let its warmth tingle our faces.  We must begin to hunger for more, we must yearn to look at ourselves in the mirror, we must learn to freely be who we were meant to be.

This world would never make it easy for individuality to shine.  Look around everyone seems to be influenced by the same drivers of society.  In comparison, few would dare to release themselves to the world, with their flaws but with their gifts.   And yet, while we say few, there are many who have accomplished great things, not because they were rich, or intelligent or popular, but because they were daring enough to remove the shaded pretenses of their lives and LIVE.

I DARE YOU TO LIVE!

What is that one thing you are hesitating from doing all because you have been lying to yourself, telling yourself that you are not good enough.  Why do you embrace harmful emotions that hinder you from looking up.  I DARE YOU TO LIVE, LET THE SUN SHINE ON YOU AND LIVE!!

Necklaces offered to Grenadian Readers (NO LONGER AVAILABLE)

My promotion continues as I try to give away two necklaces.  I think they are special necklaces.   Their pendants were constructed by hand, using materials in our environment.

The first two persons to subscribe and to get three (3) other people to subscribe to this blog,  will receive one of the lovely necklaces in the featured picture above.   This first offer is extended to readers in my home country, Grenada! Don’t worry, there will be other offers for other destinations.

Here is more information on the featured necklaces;

The pendants of the featured necklaces were hand-made by Roland Benjamin, a contemporary visual Artist, who is from Grenada.  He creates art using valuable resources that we find in our environment.  Roland believes in the power of creative ingenuity and design, and has a passion for working with wood, leather and other fine precious metal.

The Pendant on the left is made of White Cedar, decorated with Wilks’ (Sea Snails) Shells, with a strip of leather at the top.  The pieces are tied together using copper wire. The Pendant on the right is made of Campeche Wood, with a Ring of Coral and again Wilks’ Shells.  The pieces are tied together using stainless steel.

When I saw these pendants, I thought they were beautiful and I decided, while I would love to keep them, I would rather enjoy the thrill of giving them away.  So, with the help of “This and That” Craft Shop in Grenada, I added silk twine to the one on the left and a suede chord to the one on the right, with rings and clasps, making them into exquisite necklaces.  I really love them, and I hope whoever is blessed to get them would love them and take very good care of them.   The pieces of wood (white Cedar & Campeche) can be maintained by applying a little mineral oil now and then

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Worship Expressions – Seeking God!

My God, I need you!   I need you desperately!   My soul longs for your presence. Stay close by, Oh Awesome God!  Wrap me in your arms and breathe upon me.

Oh, awesome God, everything I am is because of you, I don’t want to be without you. You are my inspiration, when doubt sneaks up on me, you lovingly whisper in my ear. “When you are  weak, I’ll give you strength.”

My God, oh how I need you!    I need you constantly!  My heart longs for your comfort.  Stay close by, Oh Awesome God! Saturate me with your substance and renew my mind.

Matchless! Supreme! Master! Every minute is deserving of your PRAISE.  I seek to honour you only.

You are my motivation, when lies seek to redefine who you said I am, you lovingly remind me of my value.   You are always there!

I worship you!!

Single and Committed to Sexual Purity! Is it Possible!

Let me start off by saying that “Life is so beautiful when we are living it!!”  Why do we spend so much time worrying or investing in relationships that are going nowhere!

Are you a teenager or young adult and having difficulty imagining being single and sexually pure?   Consider the following;

Decide, Resolve, Declare!

We need to set goals, standards and expectations for ourselves.   We must first decide what we want in life and consequently identify the things we need to do or not do to achieve those goals.  While our parents are significant players in forming our moral standards and how we see ourselves, we must develop self-awareness, and personal thinking and reasoning abilities as we grow into independence and begin making decisions on our own.  It is not sufficient to have all A’s and B’s or a perfect GPA, you need to have conviction about your goals, your spiritual, moral and social beliefs.   Deciding, resolving and declaring who you are and where you are heading, can be difficult, especially if you are seeking to be guided by the beliefs of others, by what is fashionable and by what is popular.  It is difficult because fashion and popularity and even the belief of others waiver, they change, they are conditional and are often driven by bigger players like, laws, customs and money.

I found one thing to be constant, sound and reliable and that is God and his Word.   Consider building your resolutions and declarations around a God who has a track record for sound decisions, faithfulness, unconditional love and a manual for living, that is practical and relevant no matter how many generations have come and gone.

Build-up, nourish, enrich!

I believe we know ourselves more than anyone else; our weak tendencies, our selfish desires, the things we are trying to overcome.  We all need to be wise, as we seek to enrich ourselves, as we seek to resist the habits and practices that would rob us from a truly fulfilled life.

All you need to do is quickly assess your life.   Do your friends seek to encourage you to do the right thing, are they concerned about your well-being, whether you are happy, the quality of decisions you make.  In other words, do your friends really care?  You need to surround yourself with people who truly care for you.  It means that they would love you enough to caution you of the possible dangers you can encounter because of your choices.

The Word of God would nourish and enrich you, it should not be ignored or taken for granted.  For you to feel the lasting effects of God word, you need to read, meditate and apply it daily.  There are many good books available from you to choose from; in your local bookstores and online, make good use of them.  Reading, momentarily takes you away from your current environment, into another experience, another world that requires you to stretch your imagination, to think.  You find yourself stepping within the covers of the book and it steels your attention away from what is going on around you.  It is important therefore to choose good books; books that would educate you, broaden your perspective and provide insight on matters on common interests.  Seek to choose books that would inspire you to live a purposeful life.

Additionally, in some countries there are clubs you can join, summer programmes and other healthy activities you can participate in.   Volunteering to teach at summer schools or to assist your former school during its annual sports or fair or some other annual activity can be beneficial as well.  The goal here is as you give of yourself and as you serve, you would allow yourself to become more enriched.

Church programmes can be very beneficial.  I wish to warn you about being religious and engaging in activities that makes no sense, activities that are superficial and gives you a false sense of well-being.  Everything we do in life needs to make sense if life is going to be meaningful.  The Lord Jesus did not come to offer religion but rather life and life abundantly; the kind of life that allows you to experience change and to help impact others positively.   Your church should encourage sexual purity as well, through its teaching and its programmes.

Personally, I have found that special events can really boost you, I am speaking of events such as Concerts and Conferences; some of them happens once a year.   Many of them involve people who have experienced extra-ordinary struggles, and miracles and God has raised them up to be a voice.

Date intentionally; Date purposefully!

This article is about living single and remain sexually pure and yet we have not used the word single much and the word “sex” has not been mentioned only once before.  It is important to understand why, staying pure while living single is no magic, it requires effort and discipline and surrounding yourself with the right practices would help to provide that safe zone that would support you, making it easier for you to do the right thing.  Think about it, imagine you have been given a letter, it is in a white envelope and you do not wish for it to get soil.  I would think you would not take it to the garden with you or to the kitchen or to the bathroom; I would think, you would not place in on the floor or anywhere, where it will be exposed to anything that can tarnish its purity. I call it common sense!

If you create the setting that would make it easy for you to make bad decisions and live carelessly, you would surely experience consequences that would cause you to regret.

Bearing this in mind, here are some reasons you should not date someone;

  • Because you don’t want to hurt the person by saying no;
  • Because he or she is popular or cute;
  • Because you are longing to go on a date and this person is going to make it happen;
  • Because you feel pressured by your friends or by your church to go on a date;
  • Because you think time is running out for you; you are getting old.

This can also help; Don’t go dating unless;

  • You are seriously considering marriage in the future;
  • You believe that your time should not be wasted and anytime spent with anyone should be quality time only;
  • You have prayed about it or sought the advice of someone you respect, and you are comfortable doing it.
  • You have both discuss expectations and boundaries and there is no conflict there.
  • Your date is also interested in marriage and It is their desire to date intentionally.

Trust God!

Simply trust God to work things out.  Please understand that even if you put everything in place to ensure your dating is purposeful, it may not work out. simply because it is not meant to be.   Continue to live and enjoy your single-hood.

There is so much I could say, but I don’t believe in giving my readers too much to swallow at one time; conditions for choking, right?

I encourage you not to allow society to pressure you to do anything.   God’s standards for man are still good and comes with numerous perks and blessings.   Live your life with purpose!!

Single and Committed to Sexual Purity! Is it Possible! YES!

Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.”